I took a week off from this blog… I had a lot going on, and I wasn’t feeling well for a few days.
The stuff I had going on involved seeing Carbon Leaf in San Francisco. As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve seen this band many times, including just about every time they’ve toured nationwide. Usually, their tour only takes them as close as San Francisco, and more often than not it happens to be on a weeknight. I got home from San Francisco at 2am and got four hours of sleep that night, among the reasons I’ve been so exhausted lately.
I left for the concert right after work, with plans to stop in Concord or Pleasant Hill or Walnut Creek for dinner. It would be around 5pm when I got there, and I know my way around that area because I lived there briefly. At around 4:30, I decided on a whim to pull over and post on Facebook and Instagram exactly where I would be stopping for dinner. I said if any of my friends in that area saw this post and were free, please come say hi sometime between 5 and 6. I’ve done this kind of thing a few times before, but this one ended up being different, because someone actually showed up and joined me for dinner. (Not just some-ONE, it was actually a whole family of four.) It was nice to know that someone actually took the time to join me.
Yesterday, just nine days after the Carbon Leaf trip, I found myself in the Bay Area again, although not specifically in the same place. This time, I didn’t post that I would be passing through anyone else’s area, and I didn’t invite anyone to join me. Part of the difference here was just logistical. The plan for this trip was to catch up with someone I hadn’t seen in a while over lunch, so I wasn’t stopping to eat anywhere. I also wasn’t passing directly through anywhere I used to live, or anywhere with a high concentration of people I hadn’t seen in a while. I didn’t want my friend to think that she wasn’t a priority. And I had plans back home that evening, so while I wasn’t in a hurry to get home, I knew that any additional stops I made might mean less time with my friends back home.
But sometimes when I’m passing through places where friends live, it isn’t that I don’t have time to see them. Sometimes it’s just part of being an introvert. Sometimes I’m really looking forward to a long drive by myself, getting lost in the music and the scenery. Sometimes I feel anxious about trying to make plans with people, for no good reason other than that I’m an introvert.
I just hope that, when this happens, my friends who I didn’t try to stop and visit don’t feel slighted or left out. I promise that isn’t it. I have friends spread out all over California, and all over the world for that matter. Someone asked me once what I would wish for if I could have one wish, and the best answer I thought of was a private jet with an unlimited fuel supply, or some other form of fast and cheap transportation, so I could visit distant friends and family more often.
But sometimes I just feel like being alone.
Those of you who are my friend on Facebook, or who follow me on Instagram, know that I like to take pictures of scenery or landmarks when I’m not home. If you see me taking a picture of something that is near you, and you’re available to hang out, please speak up. Let me know if you want me to stop and see you. And keep inviting me to things. Similarly, let me know if you’re ever in my area and you feel like hanging out. But please accept the fact that I might not be able to, and I might not be in the mood for it for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. I really hope that this doesn’t come across as arrogant or selfish, because that’s not what I mean at all. When this happens, let’s talk about another time that might work out to get together. Advance notice works better with my schedule.
Thank you, friends.