It’s been a while. 582 days since I have seen you, and 220 days since I have had any sort of communication from you. I have no idea what’s going on in your life. I’ve been thinking about you again the last few days. I know why. It’s pretty obvious why, considering what day it is. I’m not proud of this fact. I feel quite immature that I’ve been thinking about you today. But my mind isn’t like that. I have been cursed with holding on to memories and thoughts long after their times have passed. So why can’t I just move on? It sure didn’t take you long to move on.
I still feel like I owe you an apology for unfriending you and cutting off all contact. I never wanted it to be like this, and I’m sorry for that. I don’t know if that was the best way to handle things, but it felt like something I had to do in order to have some chance of moving on someday.
To be honest, it almost felt like a blessing in disguise when you ditched all of us and found a new group to hang out with. As much as I spent most of 2016 trying to stay on good terms with you after everything that happened, it was hard sometimes. We used to be so close before then, and I was just watching you grow apart from me right in front of me. I wasn’t getting much more from you than small talk. You never shared your life with me like you had before. You were always off flirting with whichever drunk guy was paying attention to you, while you were giggling and claiming to be shy and awkward. And after you found your new friends, I only heard from you in texts once every four to six months, and those conversations always ended quickly and abruptly. I just couldn’t stand to go through that. You said that we couldn’t be together because it just wasn’t a good time for you to be in a relationship with anyone, but you sure had no problem running after other guys. I kept getting my hopes up that we would be close again, and I eventually realized we wouldn’t. I normally get annoyed with people who find new friends and disappear from my life, but in your case it probably needed to happen.
I don’t know what you’re doing today. You’re probably out doing something fun with your new friends. I don’t need to know. You’re out there living the perfect happy life that I always thought I wanted, while I’m growing apart from some of my longtime social circles and finding new ways to be hurt and ignored by women. And for as much as your bad decisions have hurt me in the past, this particular part of the struggle is entirely on me. No one has promised me anything, and I have no right to actually find the happiness that I pursue. How your life turns out is no concern of mine. My long memory and my logical mind make forgiveness exceedingly difficult. Believe me. I have tried. I even wrote here about forgiving you, back when we were trying to be on good terms again. What changed? Was I being dishonest? I don’t think so… but, as I said before, at the time I was hoping that we would be close again someday, and your actions in the time after that have shown that you aren’t interested in this.
Sometimes I wonder what I would do if we were suddenly to cross paths again, face to face. Would I want to talk to you? Would I want to work things out and welcome you back in my life? Would I angrily tell you how much I am still hurt by the way you pretend to want to communicate and then leave me hanging? I honestly don’t know. I can’t say what I would do. And maybe that’s why it is best that our paths not cross right now.
I’m not good at letting go and moving on. I still sometimes carry around hurt from others before you. I’m just going to have to learn to live with it, to accept that it happened and choose to focus on more positive things. And hopefully as time goes on, it’ll hurt less and I won’t think about you as much. So, in case you ever seen this, I’m sorry I’m not emotionally strong enough to keep you in my life, messaging me every six months to see how I’m doing. But that’s okay. You seem to be doing very well without me, and it’s probably just better this way.