I suppose a lot of blog posts are thinking out loud, at least they would be if they were spoken instead of written, but in this case I’m referring to the song. “Thinking Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran is a major hit song released in late 2014. If you haven’t heard it, find a radio station that plays contemporary pop hits, and leave it on for approximately 5-10 minutes, and they’ll probably play it. Or if you went to a wedding in the last few months, it was probably the couple’s first dance. If you still don’t know it, here you go.
My first thought hearing it was that it sounds pretty much the same as Let’s Get It On. My second thought was that it’s kind of nice, for a sappy love song. I don’t have the strong emotional reaction to sappy love songs, because I can’t relate, but this one is catchy, and sweet. Then one day on the way to work a few months ago, the song came on the radio, and I suddenly heard it in a different way. I was going to write about it, but I never did.
I recently attended a wedding reception where this song was the first dance, and the circumstances reminded me of the thing I never wrote about. This couple, now in their mid-20s, had been friends since childhood, but they didn’t discover feelings for each other until just within the past couple years. And under those circumstances, the line from the song that made me see it in a different way months ago hit me all over again:
“Right where we are.”
The song is all sappy I’ll-love-you-forever-even-when-we’re-old-geezers stuff, but then the end of the refrain says that “we found love right where we are.” The “we” of the song didn’t have to go out searching, love was there all along. My friend who got married has lived in four (I think) states over the seven years I’ve known her, but her husband is someone she knew when they were both growing up right here in Sacramento.
Might that still happen to me someday? What I learned about finding love from college Sunday schools doesn’t work in middle age, as I’ve said before. Trying to make that work isn’t going to do me any favors, and neither is nostalgically wishing for that kind of relationship. I have to work with what I have, right where I am. Is there someone or something that I’ve been overlooking for years? Or is there someone here who I haven’t met yet because I’m looking in the wrong place and trying to make square proverbial pegs fit into round holes?
(Oooh… ending on a question… that’s a new one for Highway Pi. Crap, I ruined it, because now I’m not ending on a question anymore. Or am I?)