In my last post, I made reference to “The Week That Everything Happened.” I have used this name at times to refer to a period of seven days in my life in which, as the words suggest, a lot of things happened, many of which were the kind of things that affected me for a long time. I’ve never explained exactly when that was or what happened, though… so it’s story time, especially since the anniversary of The Week That Everything Happened is this coming week. As usual, I won’t mention names, and if there is someone in these stories whom I have told about before, I will use the same pseudonym I’ve used for them before (“Mimosa,” for example).
The Week That Everything Happened was Friday, July 30, through Thursday, August 5, 2010. Eight years ago. In the time leading up to this week, I was living in the same house where I am now. It was summer, and it was toward the end of summer break at the school where I worked at the time. I had been doing a lot of swing dancing and blues dancing that summer. At the time, I was carpooling to both dancing places with a girl who lived not too far from me, whom I will call “IC443”. I’ve told previously (#12) about a party I had been to in Davis earlier in July 2010, hosted by some college-age friends. Most of the people at this party were from the swing dancing student club at UC Davis (some of them I already knew from my usual dancing place), and for part of that summer my friend and I started crashing the UC Davis swing club, just because we wanted to dance. But there was also a much younger girl from that group, Mimosa, who I had been talking to a lot, to the point that other people were starting to notice and wonder if something was going on between us. I had plans coming up to go on a long bike ride with her.
Friday afternoon, July 30. A friend had a picnic in the park birthday party. One of her friends, “Y Sextantis,” left before I did. A few minutes later, the birthday girl told me that Y Sextantis had texted her and told her to give me her number and tell me to call her. That caught me completely off guard. Y Sextantis is cute, but she didn’t seem like my type, and more importantly, I had plans with Mimosa the next day, so I didn’t respond to that. However, Y Sextantis found me on Facebook a few weeks later, and we did end up spending a day together in September. I’m still in Facebook and Instagram contact with Y Sextantis, but I don’t think I’ve seen her in person since then, and I’m still pretty sure she’s not my type.
Friday night. I gave IC443 a ride to swing dancing. On the way, I was talking about my plans with Mimosa the next day. IC443 has a very different background on dating and relationships compared to me, as most people do, and I got a little frustrated with some of the things she was saying. Something changed that night. We never carpooled again, and she never really seemed as friendly toward me after that. I don’t know if it was because of the way I acted while we were talking, or because she just happened to find new friends the following week who were younger and more attractive and more popular, or if she just does things on whims for no reason. It could have been any of those. I still tried to be friendly to her for a while, but never got much more than hello out of her. At some point in the future, she stopped going dancing. She came back once in 2015 and was friendly again, but we didn’t stay in touch.
Saturday morning, July 31. My long bike ride with Mimosa. I didn’t sleep much the night before. I was nervous. At one point later in the day, I kissed her… at several points, actually. It was my first kiss in over three years. Everything felt wonderful, and it didn’t seem to matter that I was 33 and she was 20.
Saturday afternoon and evening. I dropped off Mimosa at her friend’s house after our bike ride date, as we had planned. I went home and showered. I was going to a wedding that evening of some friends from church, and they had asked me to bake something to serve at their reception. After I was done baking, I attempted a quick nap, since I had only slept for about an hour and a half the night before and I had ridden my bike about 40 miles that morning. There was dancing at the wedding reception. One of my dance friends, “Gamma Comae,” also knew the couple getting married; she was there with her entire family. That night was the first time I remember talking to her 16-year-old sister, “Sulafat,” although to this day Sulafat insists that she already knew me, or at least knew who I was, at that time. A few years later, Sulafat (at that time 19) and I carpooled to a mutual friend’s game night, and in that half hour car ride we quickly went from acquaintances who say hi in passing occasionally to close friends, which we still are today. But we first talked (and danced) at that wedding during The Week That Everything Happened.
Later Saturday night. I was going to hang out with friends after the wedding, even though it was going to be pretty late by then. Gamma Comae was friends with this group too, so both of us carpooled there (to the house of the same mutual friend from the game night a few years later in the above paragraph). Mimosa and her friend with whom I dropped her off earlier were there too. On the way home, at about 2am, Gamma Comae asked me how I was still functioning, since I had slept for less than two hours of the last 44 or so. I guess I was just on a high because of the whole Mimosa situation.
Sunday, August 1. I went to the fair with a friend. The concert that night was Weird Al Yankovic, the most recent of two times I’ve seen him live.
Monday, August 2. I was in Davis hanging out with Mimosa for most of the day. We went to see Toy Story 3 in the afternoon. Great movie. Then we hung out at her house for a while. That night we went to the swing dancing club at UC Davis, and after dancing came back to her house for a few hours of kissing. I was really on a high at that point.
Tuesday, August 3. In the morning, I made the Facebook song lyric quote that I wrote about in #208 last week. That night, I went to the Sacramento River Cats game with some friends from church (that’s AAA baseball, one step below Major League). I don’t remember much about the game (I looked it up, the River Cats lost, 7-5 to Las Vegas), but I do remember texting Mimosa during the game; she was packing to go out of town to visit her friend for a few days. I’ve already told the rest of that story twice on here. But there was another long-term consequence of the Mimosa incidents: a couple weeks later, we were still trying to be friendly, and she mentioned that she and her aforementioned friend knew someone who they wanted to set me up with. At first I didn’t like their friend, but a few months later we seemed to click better… and that was Acrux, the horrible relationship that I was in for most of 2011, the one that became long distance because she decided she was going to move away without even discussing it with me, and then she didn’t make me a priority once she moved away.
Wednesday, August 4. As far as I can remember, nothing special happened this day.
Thursday, August 5. I went to a friend’s birthday dinner. I talked a lot with one of her friends, “Aurora” (whom I mentioned in one of the other stories I linked to this one). We got to be close over the next few months (and we actually figured out that we had met once before, through the same circle of friends, but neither of us realized it at the time), and the following January she told me that she liked me. We hung out a lot for a couple months, but I just wasn’t feeling it, and I felt terrible having to tell her so. I felt especially terrible because this was all during the same time that I was first getting to know Acrux, and I feel like I had to choose one over the other. I didn’t go on an actual date with Acrux until I knew I really wasn’t into Aurora, but I still wonder if my judgment wasn’t clouded. In hindsight, I don’t think either of them would have been right for me. I did end up on good terms with Aurora, although I haven’t actually seen her in two years.
So what does it all mean that all of these things happened within a week of each other? Probably nothing. But all these little things together have made that week feel like a turning point in my life. I guess there isn’t really a point to this story. I like stories. Have a good week, everyone.