(This appears to be about sports, but if you’re one of those sportsball haters, I hope you still read it, because there’s more to this than sports.)
I just got back from the Sacramento Kings basketball game. This team has been driving me crazy the last few weeks. They won five games in a row, which put them in position to make the playoffs, which has not happened this late in the season since a decade ago. Then they lost four games in a row, removing them from playoff contention for now. Then they won tonight, even though they were without their top scorer, center DeMarcus Cousins, due to a sprained ankle.
DeMarcus Cousins was recently named to the All-Star team for the second consecutive year; last year was the first time the Kings had had an All-Star since 2004. In one recent game (the last of the five consecutive wins), Cousins scored a career-high 48 points, then two nights later he topped that, scoring 56 points in a double-overtime loss and tying the Sacramento-era record (this is the team’s 31st season since moving to Sacramento). Many sports writers are calling him the most talented center in the league right now.
However, there is a down side behind all that raw talent. Cousins is known for being short-tempered. He often is among the league leaders in technical fouls received for arguing with the officials. He has been known to lash out in frustration, not only at officials, but sometimes at his own coaches. Usually, however, such behavior is accompanied by an eventual apology. Some say he is not a good team player. Some say that he is lazy, not playing as hard as he could, and he has let himself get a little out of shape.
I feel a certain sort of camaraderie with DeMarcus Cousins, because I can be the same way sometimes. I am also short-tempered, in a way that affects my ability to express my talents. I have often acted in frustration and subsequently apologized. And I have been known to start unnecessary arguments when things don’t go my way. I don’t necessarily believe in this, but my mom would probably say that Cousins and I are so similar because we are both Leos.
I want to see Cousins succeed. I want to see him grow up and calm down, so he can focus on being one of the world’s elite basketball players. I want to see him play hard and shake the reputation for being lazy. I want to see him take bad calls in stride and not lose his cool, so he can help the Kings bounce back and be a better team.
Unfortunately, I can’t change him.
But I can change myself.
I can work on my own temper. I can avoid unnecessary arguments when I’m angry. I can work hard at my goals and not let myself get distracted. I’ve never met DeMarcus Cousins, and I may never meet him, and working on all these things in myself will probably not affect his play or his personal growth in any way. But working on these things myself might help someone else, a younger friend or one of the kids I work with, before it’s too late for them.